There have been a few times, a few times too many when a random stranger would ask me if I was pregnant. Feeling a little embarrassed and humiliated, I would just laugh it off and let them know that I am just fat. I know that they are embarrassed too and then there would be this awkward silence between us.
I have never in my life had the guts to ask anyone even if they are obviously pregnant and they look like they’ve swallowed a bowling ball. It’s just rude. I always wondered what possess people to do so.
I have a huge muffin top and that’s without wearing any tight fitting clothes. I had four children and then I just never rebounded to my old size of a 0. Yes, a size 0 to 12 in 15 years. It’s a lot of work to stay fit when your metabolism is flat-lining. My priority is to make sure that my kids are raised correctly and they have everything they need. Isn’t that what mothers do?
I really have no problem with my size. We’re all getting old, wrinkly and pudgy. As long as I am eating healthy - then I have no reason to obsess about my body. I had my yearly physical last week and yesterday I received the results. Apart from my good cholesterol being so low - I was pretty much given a clean bill of health. Everything looked great according to the doctor – my blood pressure, thyroid, red blood cells, yadda, yadda, yadda …
So yes, I do not care what people think of me. Externally, I just care about my skin and my teeth. I don’t buy clothes that I don’t feel good in so I am pretty confident with how I look when I step outside.
The other day, I was at Gap Kids and I wandered off and stumbled upon the maternity section. They had some tops that were very fashionable and what my 12-year old would say as “typical” of me. I was tempted to buy, but then I talked myself out of it – mainly thinking how this is going to encourage others to speculate. I am truly more embarrassed for the people who asks.
So do me a favor, if you see a woman waddling with a huge bowling ball tucked under her shirt or a small rounded lump – do not ask her how far along she is! Pregnant women feel glorious about being pregnant. If they want you to know, they will let you know. Asking is just bad form.
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